Looking back on the majority of my life, I would describe myself as a pretty competitive person. I’ve played sports since I was a little kid, and I always hated the feeling of losing. Weirdly enough though, I wouldn’t necessarily say that this drive to win was a characteristic that came naturally to me. I remember vividly as a young kid hating the feeling of losing, but also hating confrontation. You can see how this would eventually lead to some internal conflict. At times this conflict would be virtually paralyzing, leaving me to prefer being on the sidelines so that I wouldn’t be forced to make tough decisions. That was a turning point for me, because I knew that I couldn’t live the rest of my life with this fear. Eventually this led me to the mantra “take the first step”.
Imagine you find yourself waking up on an extremely foggy day. You can only see enough light to take the first initial step. But if you take that one step, you can see enough light to take another step. By continuing to repeat this process, you can look back and find that you have moved a much further distance than you originally thought possible. This analogy I believe perfectly applies to my younger years when I was trying to develop my drive to win. There would be times that I had no clue what decision to make, and instead of letting that indecision hold me back, I would simply “take the first step”. While this process might sound like the “fake it til you make it” mentality, I truly believe that it works. If you want to win at school, work, or even just life, sometimes all it takes is that first step.